And perhaps the realization was “that if you did not know the pain you would not have known anything else”. Our pain is not a waste it forms us to who we are, so then in the end of your words this becomes a choice and when we choose pain then we can choose happiness as well and it all dont hurt so much anymore when we know we have a choice. Pain then becomes acceptance !

Thank you so much for this! I am sometimes a roller coaster of emotions tied up with forgetting I can choose. As I get older it is becoming a must to choose joy and embrace my pain. Awesome words you have put this together so well if I could clap more then 50 times it would be an infinity of applause!